How Do You Stay Friends When Everything Changes?

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Wait no longer, part two of my conversation about friendship with Cari, Jenève, and Noah is here! Find out what happens to friendships as we grow up, move away, get married, have kids, change our beliefs, and become different versions of ourselves. We talk about how adult friendship often looks less like perfectly planned nights out and more like helping a friend clean the house, running errands together, or simply eating pizza and playing cards. We also dig into why shared values and the willingness to let people change can matter more than having identical beliefs. You’ll also here as we compare our homeschool experiences, talk about AWANA and Adventures in Odyssey, share creative projects we made together, and reflected on some of the "glow ups" we've experienced since leaving homeschooling. Ultimately, this conversation comes back to one thing: find the people who will keep showing up as you grow and change.

In this episode, we talk about:

  • How homeschool communities can create friendships that feel more like family.
  • Why some childhood friendships naturally deepen while others don’t become close until adulthood.
  • Maintaining friendships across distance, college, relationships, and major life changes.
  • The strange pressure many homeschoolers experienced around boys and girls being friends and the assumption that friendship must mean dating.
  • How purity culture and fear of romantic relationships affected the way we understood attraction, dating, and physical affection.
  • Why protecting kids from every painful experience can leave them unprepared for adulthood — and how supportive friendships can give young people a safe place to learn from difficult experiences.
  • The healing that can happen when adult children and their parents finally have honest conversations about the past.

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Chapters

00:00 Welcome Back To The Ex-Homeschoolers Club

00:22 Ways You Can Support The Show

01:04 Why Adult Friendships Are Hard

02:06 Leaning Into Mom Friends

05:10 Errands As Hangouts

08:47 Friendship Phases And Adapting

10:17 Kids As A New Hobby

12:02 Values Keep Friends Close

14:54 Sticking Through Big Changes

17:58 Homeschool Similarities

20:55 Mime Memories And Odyssey

22:15 Nostalgia Versus Deconstruction

24:54 Mime Confidence And Showman

26:03 Showman Song Tangent

26:52 Their Book Plug

27:54 Mixed Metaphors Origin

29:37 How The Book Works

30:23 Old Songs And Videos

31:09 Three Hour Movie Story

33:21 Creating Together Lessons

35:20 Homeschool Glow Up Talk

36:53 Glow Up Stories

46:42 Wrapping Up And Community

How Do You Stay Friends When Everything Changes?
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